In reading
and hearing about the last incident where the father shoots his son in
self-defense my heart broke for the whole family. After Andrews’s suicide, we
were all besieged with what ifs.
I guess
all disease is a family disorder and certainly all deaths.
My children often disapprove when I assume
responsibility for collaborating with Andrew in his illness and death. They say
things like “Mom, you can’t blame yourself”. I counter with, “there is a difference between
cause and blame."I make this distinction because to me blame requires a conscious intention to do harm. I do not feel blame for Andrew’s death. I do not know what caused Andrew’s disease and death but I do believe that the family that we were played into the dynamics of Andrew’s life and death both consciously and unconsciously.
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