Ever since my children
were small, it has been my goal to figure out how to have an equal-equal
relationship with each of them. The parent-child relationship being inherently
unequal it seemed to me adult-adult is the only way to go.
That means giving up at a very instinctual
level my need and demand to remain a parent and by inference my demand that my
children in some way remain in need of parenting.
For me this requires
enormous self-discipline which is sometime less than successful. I have to be
aware constantly of how I project my uncertainties, inadequacies and unlived
life onto others particularly my children. This discipline and the confidence it
requires are often illusive.
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