May 3, 2014
WHAT ABOUT SUICIDE?
Schizophrenics are more
likely to commit suicide than the general population. Ten percent of people
diagnosed with schizophrenia commit suicide within 10 years of diagnosis; 15% within
30 years of diagnosis. It is harder to get a number for the rate of suicide in
the general population. A 2006 report by the World Health Organization (WHO)
states that nearly a million people take their own lives every year, more than
those murdered or killed in war. WHO figures show a suicide takes place
somewhere in the world every 40 seconds. Men are four times more likely to
commit suicide than women are. It is the 12th leading cause of death
worldwide.
WHO also notes that the
most common time of year for suicide is not the winter holiday season as many believed.
The late spring and early summer are the most common. Also by far the most common day of the week
for suicide is Monday. Andrew died on Friday, May 29, 2009. But, here is the
real mystery; NIH describes suicide as” a major,
preventable public health problem”. Is
it preventable? Big question let me get to that a little later on.
I just looked these
statistics up on Google and the numbers awe me. I do not even know why I am talking about or
concerned about statistics. Somehow, it represents my need to nail something
down. My son is dead and I do not get it. How did this happen, why did it
happen. When I try to understand
Andrew’s death, part of me thinks that life happens to us, we are just a victim
of our genetics, our dominant neurotransmitters; another part of me thinks we are definitely
in the driver’s seat and responsible for our own success and happiness. I guess
like with most things, the truth probably falls somewhere in the middle. Life
and death seem complex and unknowable on some level—another part of me wants to
understand it, define it, and fully live it.
Since his death, I
often ask Andrew, when I speak, to him to let me know how he is doing, where he
is. John says just the opposite. When I ask him, “Where is Andrew now?” he
emphatically states, “He is dead, he is gone, there is nothing left of
Andrew”. I say "what about his
energy, where does that go?" Remember our physics, energy cannot be
created or destroyed. It just gets repackaged.”
I was reading a review of the book, The Swerve in the New York Times, Sunday October 2, 2011, by Sarah Bakewell. It is the story of how a renaissance
book dealer saved a text by Lucretius, who was born in 94 BC, went mad, and
killed himself at the age of 43. He believed that everything was made of
particles, “atoms”, that are infinite and eternal, no one made them, nothing
can destroy them. He included humans as being composed of atoms as well, and
all of us our connected. Death is not to be feared, it is only a release of
atoms into the general pool for reuse. This belief led Lucretius to live his life
in pursuit of pleasure and the avoidance of pain. He understood that life was
transient and we should avoid the two basic human foibles; fear of what we
cannot avoid and desire of what we cannot have. He recommends as an alternative
an acceptance of all life as transient and a serious contemplation of the
wonder of the world as it is. When I read this it resonated with me, but, then
there was a catch in my mind that said,” I wonder if this is rationalizing in
the face of pain.” My answer is that it
probably is a case of my trying to deal with the irrationality of life and that
is a good thing. It allows me to direct my energies toward relationship with
the world, others and myself in pursuit of understanding and enjoying my
connectedness. Having said that, I still feel like I want to hold on to Andrew.
While I understand that his suicide was a way of giving him (and me) a
much-needed rest, his life is over and so is a part of mine.
More tomorrow
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