I was unrestrained and did
not let anything get in my way, including sleep. In addition to redecorating, I
was getting a lot of satisfaction and relief from anxiety through my sewing. I
was judging myself by a set of deadlines that I personally generated. It
started when I invested $365 in a new Bernina sewing machine. I had heard that
these were the best and my Kenmore was always on the fritz. In addition, I
needed to be able to fly the fabric through the machine and this kind of motion
disabled the average thread tension. I was desperate to make sure that the new
sewing machine paid for itself. I kept track of what I spent on fabric,
notions, and what I was able to produce and consequently save. It was an
irrational time and place but I was somehow able to justify my sewing mania by
all the wonderful things I was making. When you are productive, not only did I
justify my own mania but also all of my friends and family were constantly
giving me great feedback. By the time I stopped sewing in 1987 everyone on our
six- house-street had drapes, clothing or both, that I had made. The intensity
of my sewing had me up at three am so I could get a solid three hours of
uninterrupted work before anyone else was awake. This meant in addition to
being a slave to my sewing I was always at least a little tired and often
exhausted. Sewing was the perfect avocation for me; it was a creative outlet, I
had full control of my production schedule, there was a tangible output every
day, I could rationalize that I was saving the family money and I could burn
through my incredible level of manic energy. It kept the tiger at bay while at
the same time created an atmosphere almost completely lacking in calm and
peacefulness. My exhaustion, added to my anxiety made me constantly irritable
and impatient. It was and is still very hard for me to relax and do nothing.
Then it was impossible. My children lived in a house of tension and love and
wanting to do the right thing. I was short with them and their dad a lot. I
wonder what this did for Andrew who was averse to over stimulation. I remember
one time I was in the basement where I had my sewing room which I had built
myself, to wall off my work from toddlers. This way I did not have to clean it
up every time I left my sewing; I just shut and sometimes locked the door.
Anyway, I was down
stairs sewing away and Andrew and Lou were trying to get me to stop and do
something for them—cannot remember just what at this point. I was asking them
to give me a few more minutes to finish whatever I was working on. They waited
patiently for a few minutes and then very quietly Andrew cut my tape measure in
half. It got my attention. I actually laughed. I was aware that they often
needed to do something dramatic to get my attention.
The sewing machine obsession
eventually ran off the tracks. By 1985, I was losing my ability to get the same
level of satisfaction. I was getting bored and sad. I began to cry and for one week,
I stopped even getting dressed in the morning, where beforehand I had barely
taken time to undress. I cried for this entire week and really got John’s
attention. I told him I could not take it anymore and that I had to get out of
the house. Self-editing had run its course. I needed something more. After
exploring going back to medical school, I ended up going back to work.
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