2.
THE LOST SONS
How and why does
suicide occur? Does it come out of nowhere? Is it the result of bad brain
chemistry? Is it the challenges of everyday life? For Andrew, I guess the
trouble may be rooted in events much older than his first episode of
schizophrenia. As a little girl, people
told me about sons who died young. My mother lost a brother in a car accident
when he was four and she was eight. My
mother’s sister, Aunt Colene, told me of my great uncles, her mother’s bothers,
who died young. My brother Mike, also tortured by painful daemons, died when he
was 32 and I was 34. The cause of death was pneumonia, but he had been a serial
drug and alcohol abuser for many years, starting in high school.
I wonder how many
generations had lost sons. I read now that the DNA we are born with contains
the impact of old traumas and transforms during life as we respond to our
environment. I wonder how all this
works. My husband, John, experienced serious depression and delusions when he
was younger. John’s father and my mother both suffered from clinical
depression. John’s grandfather was
depressed. Therefore, we know there is a lot of mental illness in the family. In
addition, there was a fair amount of alcoholism, which may have been self-treatment
for depression or anxiety.
I asked John if the fact that we had
a son who committed suicide surprised him. He said, “No, look at his gene
pool.” I guess my reaction was somewhat
different. Different, in that, I see mental illness everywhere. Antidepressants
and anti-anxiety medications are blockbuster drugs. Mental illness is also
often masquerading as drug abuse, antisocial acting out, and poor performance
in school or on the job. It just did not seem like our family was very unusual
in terms of incidence of mental illness.
However, as far as I know this was our family’s first case actually labeled suicide
and the first case diagnosed as schizophrenia in either John’s or my family.
More tommorrow
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