Tuesday, October 28, 2014
DETERMINED To DO THE RIGHT THING
Monday, October 27, 2014
SUBOXONE con't
Suboxone is a narcotic medication indicated for the treatment of opioid dependence, available only by prescription. It must be taken while under a doctor's care. Suboxone contains buprenorphine, an opioid medication.
Buprenorphine is similar to other opioids such as morphine, codeine, and heroin however, it produces little or no euphoric ("high") effects and therefore may be easier to stop taking. It also contains Naloxone, which blocks the effects of opioids such as morphine, codeine, and heroin.
When Suboxone is injected, naloxone will block the effects of buprenorphine and lead to withdrawal symptoms in a person with an opioid addiction. When administered under the tongue as directed, naloxone will not affect the actions of buprenorphine.
Sunday, October 26, 2014
SUBOXONE
John and I went with him to the first meeting at Penn several days later. Initially, Andrew spoke privately with the head of the program, a very kind and patient psychiatrist. Then the four of us met together.
Dr. W explained the program to us thoroughly. Andrew would immediately have baseline blood work done. Then he would begin taking a drug called Suboxone.
Saturday, October 25, 2014
UNIVERSITY OF PENNSYLVANIA
Andrew said immediately—no beating around the bush, “It was me”. Fear, anxiety and anger crazed me. I demanded to know, “What the hell was going on?”
Andrew was very chagrinned but also very honest. He told us that he was sorry, but that he had to get the drug. We asked what drug and he told us about the OxyContin. He said it had made him feel so much better.
We asked him if he knew the dangers of addiction and he said, “Yes”. We told him that this was out of our control but that if he wanted to stay living with us he would have to figure this out immediately.
The amazing thing is that he did. Within 24 hours he had found, applied for and been accepted in the drug treatment program at University of Pennsylvania.
Friday, October 24, 2014
THINGS ARE OUT OF CONTROL
All of my children have always had access to my ATM card that I kept in my purse. They also knew my pin number. I would give them the card to run errands for me or to use it to get cash for me or for them.
John and I were down at his office computer that is set up in the basement. Andrew was not home. The girls were not living at home then. I believe this was spring of 2006. I called Andrew and got him on his cell phone.. I told him we needed to talk to him immediately and he said he would come right home.
I believe he knew why we wanted to talk to him. I thought he was sending us a red flag that said, “Help, things are out of control”.
Thursday, October 23, 2014
I was frightened and upset that it might be Andrew.
Wednesday, October 22, 2014
OXYCODONE
Tuesday, October 21, 2014
GREATEST RELIEF
During that time, where he still had some benefit from the meds but few of the side effects was when he felt the best. However, it was a very short window.
This may have also been true of his use of marijuana and prescription drugs. When he was taking them, he felt better; the after effects of marijuana were an intensification of irritability and delusions.
The prescription drug that he used to his greatest relief was OxyContin.
Monday, October 20, 2014
TAKING CARE OF HIMSELF
The prescribed medicines he took had side effects--weight gain, depression, and sexual dysfunction to name a few
Saturday, October 18, 2014
WHOSE JOB IS IT?
Friday, October 17, 2014
IS SUICIDE PREVENTABLE
Thursday, October 16, 2014
SELF PROTECTION
For me the supportive presence of my neighbors,, my family and my friends allowed me to begin to stitch together a new framework for being that was different because Andrew had died.
I did not really understand that he was dead and physically gone forever. I do not think I understand that now. In some way he is just away. My sister Kathy died last August and I feel the same about her.
I was explaining this way of being with death to Marnie and she told me it was the same with her. She added that she felt it was her way of protecting herself from losses that were just too big. It was as if she was describing me exactly.
Wednesday, October 15, 2014
NOT ALONE
They were writing me notes about Andrew—wonderful notes.
They were holding my hand and telling me by their presence that I was not alone and not the only one who had lost him.
What all of those wonderful people did was keep me sane. Could I have gone through Andrew death alone?
Tuesday, October 14, 2014
MY SAFETY NET
Sunday, October 12, 2014
BEING THERE FOR OTHERS
It seems shocking now to me that I did not realize that in some very important way each of us counts the absolute same.
Saturday, October 11, 2014
BEING THERE
Friday, October 10, 2014
JUST BEING THERE
Thursday, October 9, 2014
GETTING SIDETRACKED
Reading back over this I realize that what I actually felt was largely numb.
The relief was mixed together with a tornado of feeling that was simply too big and all encompassing. I was stunned, horrified, hypersensitive and on autopilot.
Wednesday, October 8, 2014
WE MISS YOU SO
Tuesday, October 7, 2014
TALKING TO ANDREW
Maybe your death ended your suffering and gave me some physical relief as well.
In addition, it seemed I did not have to worry about you anymore. On the other hand, maybe I had just been waiting for the other shoe to drop and it finally did. Who knows?
I would not wish this experience on anyone else. It was and is exactly horrible.
Monday, October 6, 2014
Somehow, a mother is connected to a part of her offspring or them to her. The kittens’ pain and death is experienced by the mother cat as personal distress and perhaps, vice-versa. Of course, I do not understand all this scientifically but somehow it does make sense
Saturday, October 4, 2014
WE ARE ALL CONNECTED
Friday, October 3, 2014
RELIEF FROM WHAT
It was almost as if I knew it was coming and maybe wanted it to come, to get relief. Relief from what?
The worst thing has happened, where is the relief? This is hard to talk about and harder yet to understand.
I think I may have been suffering with you. Not for you, but in some way the part of my biology--that was in you or you in me or both-- was actively suffering.
Thursday, October 2, 2014
GONE FOR A WHILE
In some ways, you had been gone for a while.
This terrible freight train of emotion had been roaring in me for a long time.
I now believe it was your impending death that some part of me and you were each aware of.
Who knows?